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Have you ever tried to "make" their father babysit, as a way of keeping up with him, "knowing where he is?" If so, keep reading.
Naturally, mothers love to see fathers "holding" their babies in one of those "Kodak" moments. You know, something cute--both of them wearing a "goofy" grin.
Or maybe they both look "sentimental" and loving, like this picture.
Or maybe they both look "sentimental" and loving, like this picture.
Anyway, "holding" babies and "playing" with them is perfectly natural for fathers. It's adorable.
In fact, every woman dreams of having family moments, with everyone home, watching a movie, eating popcorn, and enjoying themselves. It's the perfect picture!
However, it has to STOP there because Men ARE NOT babysitters!
We have to deal with our insecurity issues another way. Making the father of our children assume a "female" role will backfire every time.
He will grow to resent you, and in some cases, he will harm the child. I touched on this subject in "What's the REAL Deal Behind Child Support?" Part 2.
All sorts of horrid news stories detail events, in which fathers murder their infant children while babysitting.
Men are not equipped to handle the "noise" of infants crying. They do not have the emotional stamina equal to that of women.
Men do not have the patience and emotional strength necessary to care for children
It is unnatural for men to function in that role. Therefore, when men try to "fit" into that space (in order to please the mother) bad things happen. They crack under the pressure of having to "give" nurturing that they don't have.
Here are a few news stories:
However, if you Google the search term "father shakes baby to death" or "father kills child while babysitting" you will get hundreds, maybe thousands, of results.
What's more, all the baby-killings happen while the mother is either at work or gone someplace else. Please understand. Men ARE NOT babysitters.
When going to work, DO NOT ask your boyfriend to babysit a kid that's NOT his. Better yet, DO NOT leave the infant or toddler at home with a boyfriend who is the natural father.
Leave the child with a relative or a licensed care provider, but NEVER with a boyfriend. Most men cannot handle hours of caring for a child. It's not in their DNA.
Studies show men who were "breastfed" have a nurturing propensity, and therefore, are more patient and tender with infants. However, most men born to baby-boomers were not breastfed. On the other hand, how would you know who's breastfed and who's not? Then again, it's only a study, and concrete evidence does not exist.
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Here on "For the Sisters" we discuss "hard" truth. But we'll be better for it.
Got something to say? Express yourself in the comment section. We can learn something from YOU too!
Peace...
Peggy
© 2014 by Peggy James
0904270d4eed8b576f3f13543c0c73cc39d315bac62d660570
In fact, every woman dreams of having family moments, with everyone home, watching a movie, eating popcorn, and enjoying themselves. It's the perfect picture!
However, it has to STOP there because Men ARE NOT babysitters!
We have to deal with our insecurity issues another way. Making the father of our children assume a "female" role will backfire every time.
He will grow to resent you, and in some cases, he will harm the child. I touched on this subject in "What's the REAL Deal Behind Child Support?" Part 2.
All sorts of horrid news stories detail events, in which fathers murder their infant children while babysitting.
Men are not equipped to handle the "noise" of infants crying. They do not have the emotional stamina equal to that of women.
Women are designed to endure labor pains, give birth, and carry out "nurturing" responsibilities for the rest of the child's life. No matter the age, the mother continues to nurture, because that is "who" she is.
Men do not have the patience and emotional strength necessary to care for children
It is unnatural for men to function in that role. Therefore, when men try to "fit" into that space (in order to please the mother) bad things happen. They crack under the pressure of having to "give" nurturing that they don't have.
Here are a few news stories:
- Fenton father charged with shaking baby to death...
- Father charged in shaken baby death
- Man loses control and beats girlfriend's 1-year-old son to death while she's at work
However, if you Google the search term "father shakes baby to death" or "father kills child while babysitting" you will get hundreds, maybe thousands, of results.
What's more, all the baby-killings happen while the mother is either at work or gone someplace else. Please understand. Men ARE NOT babysitters.
When going to work, DO NOT ask your boyfriend to babysit a kid that's NOT his. Better yet, DO NOT leave the infant or toddler at home with a boyfriend who is the natural father.
Leave the child with a relative or a licensed care provider, but NEVER with a boyfriend. Most men cannot handle hours of caring for a child. It's not in their DNA.
Studies show men who were "breastfed" have a nurturing propensity, and therefore, are more patient and tender with infants. However, most men born to baby-boomers were not breastfed. On the other hand, how would you know who's breastfed and who's not? Then again, it's only a study, and concrete evidence does not exist.
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Here on "For the Sisters" we discuss "hard" truth. But we'll be better for it.
Got something to say? Express yourself in the comment section. We can learn something from YOU too!
Peace...
Peggy
© 2014 by Peggy James
0904270d4eed8b576f3f13543c0c73cc39d315bac62d660570
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